MissFuzzyBunny, also known as Heidi, passed away from cancer this summer. She was 61 years old.
We met online shortly after I began this blog. The first time we met in person was at the 2003 SkinTwo Rubber Ball Weekend. My life was enriched by Heidi over the next decade.
Since Heidi was familiar with the fetish social scene, she was able to make friends quickly. She participated in many online forums and did many things online. We could talk about latex fetish for hours because Heidi knew everyone in the community!
As Heidi visited us in Denmark, she ended up marrying my best friend. She worked in the Latexa store (shut down in 2010) and designed and glued latex clothing for Danish labels “No Pain No Gain”, “Strange Lifeforms” and eventually her own brand “Essential Latex”. She co-edited my blog (read her contributions here) and had many suggestions for my latex guide book.
A decade after moving to Copenhagen, my friends got divorced. At the same time, Heidi was diagnosed with breast cancer and had to undergo surgery. As Heidi recovered, she began spending more time in the UK. She met her new husband there, made many friends, and ended up living happily in a London suburb in an old cottage.
My memories of Heidi are full of laughter and warmth. She had a quirky sense of humor, an infectious mood, and a great sense of style. She attended our wedding, played with our daughter, and sat for our dogs.
On August 30, a memorial service was held in the UK. It was a beautiful ceremony and a very emotional farewell.
Heidi loved animals and nature and wanted us to support charity, so if you feel like it, give some money for animal or nature protection.
Heidi was one of my best friends, and I miss her.
Rest in peace, MissFuzzyBunny.
If you’ve been curious about the world of latex fetishism or are interested in the latex community, you’ll have a chance to explore it further this month in Copenhagen.
LatexLogen is hosting a latex café evening on Thursday, May 25th, from 7:00 PM to 10:00 PM.
Their staff will be available to answer any and all questions related to latex, whether you’re a curious beginner or an experienced enthusiast.
There is no dress code for this event, so feel free to wear regular clothing or dress up in your favorite latex outfit.
The goal of the evening is to bring together as many people as possible and create an inclusive environment for great conversations and connections.
If you’re interested in attending, check out LatexLogen’s Fetlife event for more information. Join this special event for a night of exploration and discovery in the exciting world of latex!
Do you wish to explore/express your latex fetish in a safe environment together with like-minded people, but cannot attend fetish events physically because of lockdowns or other circumstances? Then you should try latex in VRChat!
What is VRChat?
VRChat is a virtual reality social game. Its users, called “avatars”, can talk to each other and interact in a 3D environment. It’s really an incredible platform where you can explore, play and create. You can dress up as a super hot latex model, hang out with like-minded kinky people or even have virtual sex.
There are fetish meetups where kinky people meet up and have virtual latex fun together. Naturally, these events are age-restricted, with a strict dress code and code of conduct, just like any other real-life fetish event.
Calling Swedes, Norwegians, Germans and all fetishists around the world… Join us on the 14th – 15th of August for a fabulous and kinky fetish weekend in Copenhagen, Denmark!
20 years ago on a hot summer night, Copenhagen’s first fetish party premiered and boy has it grown since! On the 15th of August, the Fetish Fashion Party celebrate it’s 20th anniversary in one of the most gorgeous venues in town, overlooking the lakes of the city, with a amazing international line-up of artists, designers and performers from all over Europe.
I personally look forward to see a lot of you here, so be sure to tell me if you are attending.
Please visit www.manifest.eu for more information!
Do you understand what consent is? I came across this great and simple description of the concept of consent by Rockstar Dinosaur Pirate Princess – like probably most of you have in your social media channels. The description is so simple, straight forward and true to my understanding of consent, that I could not do otherwise than write a post about it.
Rockstar Dinosaur Pirate Princess‘s description reminded me again of how important the strict rules in our fetish community and at events are, and that we need to take care of each other, making sure that we all feel safe. I know, sometimes it is difficult to make sense of specific situations at especially fetish events, but when ever you are in doubt, it might just be a good idea to make sure everything is alright. Therefore, if you ever experience abusive behavior, to yourself or to others, you should, depending on the situation, you can ask directly if they are o.k. or report it to the party security staff.
If you haven’t seen Rockstar Dinosaur Pirate Princess epic blog post yet, go ahead and read it:
If you’re still struggling, just imagine instead of initiating sex, you’re making them a cup of tea.
You say “hey, would you like a cup of tea?” and they go “omg fuck yes, I would fucking LOVE a cup of tea! Thank you!*” then you know they want a cup of tea.
If you say “hey, would you like a cup of tea?” and they um and ahh and say, “I’m not really sure…” then you can make them a cup of tea or not, but be aware that they might not drink it, and if they don’t drink it then – this is the important bit – don’t make them drink it. You can’t blame them for you going to the effort of making the tea on the off-chance they wanted it; you just have to deal with them not drinking it. Just because you made it doesn’t mean you are entitled to watch them drink it.
If they say “No thank you” then don’t make them tea. At all. Don’t make them tea, don’t make them drink tea, don’t get annoyed at them for not wanting tea. They just don’t want tea, ok?
They might say “Yes please, that’s kind of you” and then when the tea arrives they actually don’t want the tea at all. Sure, that’s kind of annoying as you’ve gone to the effort of making the tea, but they remain under no obligation to drink the tea. They did want tea, now they don’t. Sometimes people change their mind in the time it takes to boil that kettle, brew the tea and add the milk. And it’s ok for people to change their mind, and you are still not entitled to watch them drink it even though you went to the trouble of making it.
If they are unconscious, don’t make them tea. Unconscious people don’t want tea and can’t answer the question “do you want tea” because they are unconscious.
Ok, maybe they were conscious when you asked them if they wanted tea, and they said yes, but in the time it took you to boil that kettle, brew the tea and add the milk they are now unconscious. You should just put the tea down, make sure the unconscious person is safe, and – this is the important bit – don’t make them drink the tea. They said yes then, sure, but unconscious people don’t want tea.
If someone said yes to tea, started drinking it, and then passed out before they’d finished it, don’t keep on pouring it down their throat. Take the tea away and make sure they are safe. Because unconscious people don’t want tea. Trust me on this.
If someone said “yes” to tea around your house last saturday, that doesn’t mean that they want you to make them tea all the time. They don’t want you to come around unexpectedly to their place and make them tea and force them to drink it going “BUT YOU WANTED TEA LAST WEEK”, or to wake up to find you pouring tea down their throat going “BUT YOU WANTED TEA LAST NIGHT”.