People often don’t know how to write a fetLife profile or any other fetish community, as a result the visitors who come to your profile, don’t get interested enough to push the contact button and make that important first contact. Writing a good profile is actually not that hard, the hard part is finding the right words to describe you as a kinky person.

Let me show you how to find the right words for your profile. It does not matter if you are seeking a kinky partner or looking for like-minded friends, this method works for everyone.


Two days ago, when I was talking to one of the coders from the FetLife’s development team, I learned that there actually exist a hidden search function on FetLife which lets you search ALL photos on ALL profiles at once, based upon the description of those photos.

Here is how it works:

1. Enter the keyword or phrase you want to search for
2. Directly after you add “+photos”
3. Hit return!


P.S.: Remember to send me a friend request – I’m 3xL on FetLife.


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